Why You, Dear Mom, Should Rock Your Bikini

I’m not going to lie, I needed a little bit of liquid courage to write this post. Why? Because I am sharing photos of my post baby body, stretch marks and all, with about 15,000 people (including my husband’s boss—Hi, Frank!). Yikes. But even more important than being a little embarrassed about not looking how I did before two little boys came into my life is this: if I can encourage just one mom to stop focusing on her imperfections and instead be proud of all that her body has accomplished, my job here is done.  So, without any further ado (one more sip of wine), here is why you, dear mom, should ROCK your bikini:

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You already bought them—why not WEAR them?!?

If you are like me, you had a pretty decent stockpile of bikinis in your closet that you wore pre-kid. I mean, with only about 100 days of summer in Chicago, when the weather was warm enough, we were at the lake or pool. So don’t toss all of your bikinis just because your body has changed. Instead, sort through them and try them on again. Feel great in any of them? Told you that you could rock a bikini as a mom…and I bet your partner will agree.


High waisted bikini bottoms are the new black

So, I’m not sure who is responsible for the return of high waisted bikini bottoms, but I would like to kiss him or her. Why? Because I finally found a way to deal with my least favorite body part: my stomach. I was pregnant for what seemed like forever (my boys are VERY close in age—a short 20 months) and my stomach has been through a ton of stretching, poking, and prodding. That’s why I love that I can just tuck that extra tummy into the cute high waisted bikini bottoms that you can find just about anywhere that sells swimsuits. It’s glorious.


Fringe is your friend

The perfect addition to high waisted bikini bottoms? A cute top to mix and match with. One of my favorite styles is to find a bandeau top with fringe….because fringe is now “in” and hides a whole bunch of things that you don’t necessarily want on display. Thank you, fashion Gods, thank you. I picked up a ruffled top that hung low enough to almost touch the top of my high waisted bikini bottoms and I loved it. I was extremely comfortable, confident, and never even worried about how I looked compared to the other women at the pool (And I know I’m not the only one who compares like that…don’t lie!).


Set a great example

As a mom of two little boys, the topic of body image doesn’t necessarily come up (other than when they tell me that they love their butts because they use them to fart—awesome, huh?) but I like to think that all of us moms are setting an example for girls and young women out in the world. We are not all supermodels—we are real. And our time at the pool or beach should most definitely embrace that.


Focus on having fun, not fashion

When you find a swimsuit that you love and feel great in, your beauty and confidence shines. Seriously. This past month we went to Mexico and it was bliss (especially since we left Chicago when it was 5 degrees outside), but not just because it was warm and beautiful. This was the first vacation where I felt totally comfortable and happy being in my bikini all the time instead of running to get my cover up. I never built more sandcastles or had more fun swimming and splashing with my boys. My husband even told me that he never found me to be more attractive than I am now (which is saying something because my body has most definitely changed since we met almost ten years ago). And of course, my little guys loved that I was wearing the bikinis that they picked out (one red and one blue, of course) during our last minute Target run.


Wear those “Mama Bear” stripes with pride

Growing a human is a huge deal. I mean, do you ever look at your child and really congratulate yourself? If not, you most definitely should. And if you did not carry a child yourself, you still have “Mama Bear” stripes. Yours might look a little different, but we all have gotten way too little sleep and had a lunch of sandwich crusts and goldfish and our bodies show it. We should applaud and appreciate it. We are moms….and pretty damn amazing if you ask me.


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I truly hope this article inspires you to treat yourself to a new bikini, take out a favorite suit, or simply feel great about all that your body is. Oh, and if you like my suit, pick it up at Target—it’s on sale, too!


Now get out there and have some fun!
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  1. Robin Rue (@massholemommy) says

    I do wear a bikini and I don’t care who likes it and who doesn’t. I want to rock the tan and I need less swimsuit to do that.

  2. Kelli @ 3 Boys and a Dog says

    What an encouraging piece for post baby mommas! It is tough to regain that confidence you had before your body went on that journey through reformation! lol And yes, thank you thank for the high waist comeback!

  3. Frank says

    What a great post! I love the bikini and it looks wonderful on you. You should be very happy with your “post baby body” as I know Brian is. Speaking of which, thank you for not sharing any pic’s of Brian in a banana yellow speedo.

    • Amanda says

      Bwahaha…Brian in a speedo. NOBODY wants to see that! Thanks for the compliments–hope you enjoyed the shout out!

  4. Angie says

    You definitely are brave to write this and share your photos, even though personally, I think you look GREAT! Seriously. You’re gorgeous, and you’re rocking it so hard. But yeah, I get it, I don’t post a lot of photos of myself because I”m so dang self-conscious-so I still see the bravery in it.

  5. Eileen Mendoza Loya says

    Call me conservative, but I have not never worn a bikini even when I was young. I always wore one piece suits. They were not even the sexy looking one piece kinds, but more of like the ones Olympic swimmers wear. I love my body in whatever shape it is in right now, but I am just not comfortable showing skin. I admire you for your confidence. I wish I had that much!

  6. HilLesha says

    I haven’t rocked a bikini for years since it has been ages since I’ve been at the pool or beach. I’m hoping that changes this summer, though!

  7. Maggie Branch says

    I really needed to read this today, thank you. Since having my son I’ve been feeling pretty down about my body. My hips are bigger, my thighs are bigger and I have stretch marks. I really needed this encouragement to be OK with all of this and rock it all this summer!

  8. roch says

    Many moms who haven’t lost the weight from pregnancy have problems with self confidence so they don’t like wearing bikinis anymore when going to the beach. I think that if you’re comfortable in your own skin, rocking those bikini should not be a problem.

  9. Alyssa Nicole says

    I’m not a momma yet but I still struggle a lot with body image. I’m a bit bigger than most girls my age so I freak out at the idea of being in a bathing suit in public. But I’m making baby steps to self-love. I got a retro style black high waisted bikini last summer and omg, it’s like magic. I’m totally saving this post for later too though, I do worry about how I’ll feel about myself after babies. Thanks for sharing!! <3

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